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Solve for Happy: Engineer your Path to Joy

  • — by Mo Gawdat
  • 1501157558
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Introduction

 

Get off the Hedonic Treadmill.

 

 

 

Don't expect that (work * money * things) ~= happy

 

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Happiness is contained within

 

 

 

Happiness is a human's default setting, see: babies

 

 

 

The story of the human race is the story of men and women selling themselves short - Maslov

 

 

 

Attitude of gratitude

 

 

 

Make a happy list and review it weekly, find trends

 

 

 

Happiness equation

 

Happiness => perception of events - expectations

 

 

 

Pain is an important signal, suffering is a choice

 

 

 

Lean into discomfort to become resilient

 

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6-7-5

 

6-7-5

 

First, there are the “6 Grand Illusions”, which are the illusions of thought, self, knowledge, time, control, and fear.

 

Next, we have the “7 Blind Spots” of our filters, assumptions, predictions, memories, labels, emotions, and exaggerations.

 

Finally, we are encouraged to reflect on the “5 ultimate truths” of now, change, love, death, and design.

 

 

 

State of confusion

 

Illusions

 

Judgements will lack objectivity

 

Ex: illusion of time

 

State of suffering

 

Negative thoughts

 

Keeping them alive consciously

 

State of escape

 

Suspend thoughts

 

Fun as a painkiller with diminishing returns

 

Define a fun quota and meet it

 

State of happiness

 

Think positive

 

Better to remove the reasons for unhappiness than to try to inject more happiness

 

State of joy

 

Rise above thought clutter, 20000ft view

 

Utter immersion in life, blissful uninterrupted flow

 

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Little voice in your head

 

Illusions as inputs means things can't add up in happiness equation

 

Chapter 3: little voice in your head

 

You are not your thoughts. Common wisdom among cultures.

 

I think, therefore I am - Descartes

I am, therefore my brain thinks - Gawdat

 

In the modern world, most threats are to the ego, not physical. Therefore a basic function of the brain, to protect the body, is left without much to do. Therefore it is imperative to master techniques for thought control and mindfulness.

 

 

Observe the dialog - sit quietly and observe often,

  • Observe thought
  • Let it go
  • Remind yourself that you are not your thoughts

 

Observe the drama - some thoughts will stick

Acknowledge how you feel - the emotion triggered by the thought

Try to understand it better, ask why, which thought led you here

Focusing on the connection uses the problem-solving side of brain, helps cool down emotion and end the repetitive brain chatter

Reframing the thought reframes the emotion

 

Bring me a better thought - hard to dislodge negative thoughts

Vacuum left behind when finally removed

Your brain can be 'primed' with happy thoughts

Loophole, backdoor: your brain can't help but think about something when prompted to

Leverage unconscious mind - view an image, listen to a sound, activate the senses with something that makes you happy

 

Shut the duck up

Pete cohen - life diy

Meditation is a practice which prepares you for a lifestyle: greater awareness in the larger world, away from meditation

 

Brain is a serial processor - one thought at a time

Learning to pull the plug on your brain - practice a dumb smile, blank stare

Remove sensory filters, ignore brain commentary, observe and let go